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Joss Whedon In Commencement Speech To Wesleyan: 'Don't Just Live. Be Life'

Joss Whedon's public profile has gone through the roof since he joined Marvel and wrote/directed 'The Avengers'.

So as he accepted an honorary doctorate from Wesleyan University, the college from which he graduated in 1987, Whedon imparted plenty of advice to the graduates after starting by remarking every one of them was going to die.

Whedon talked about the Bill Cosby commencement speech that failed to inspire him and the contradictions that we face everyday.

Read the best highlights from the address below:

I sat through many graduations. When I was sitting where you guys are sitting the speaker was Bill Cosby. He was very funny, and he was very brief and I thank him for that. He gave us a message that I really took with me, and that a lot of us never forgot, about changing the world. He said, 'You're not gonna change the world, so don't try.'

That was it! He didn't buy that back at all. And then he complained about buying his daughter a car, and then we left. And I remember thinking you know I think I can do better. I think I can be a little more inspiring than that.

So, what I'd like to say to all of you is that you are all going to die.

This is a good commencement speech! Because I'm figuring it's got to go up from here, right? It can only get better. This is good. It can't get more depressing. You have, in fact, already begun to die.

You look great. Don't get me wrong. And you are youth and beauty. You are at your physical peak. Your bodies have just gotten off the ski slope at the peak of growth and potential! And now comes the black diamond mogul run to the grave.

And the weird thing is your body wants to die. On a cellular level that's what it wants. And that's -- probably? -- not what you want. I'm confronted by a great deal of grand and worthy ambition from this student body. You want to be politicians, social workers, you want to be artists. Your body's ambition? Mulch. Your body wants to make some babies and then go in the ground and fertilize things. That's it!

And that seems like a bit of a contradiction. That doesn't seem fair. For one thing, we're telling you to go out into the world exactly when your body is saying, 'Hey, let's bring it down a notch.' And it is a contradiction, which is actually what I'd like to talk to you about: the contradictions between your body and your mind, your mind and itself.


If you think happiness means total peace, you will never be happy. Peace comes from the acceptance of the part of you that can never be at peace. They will always be in conflict and if you accept that, everything gets a lot better!

The other reason is that because you are establishing your identities and beliefs you need to argue yourself down, because somebody else will. Somebody's going to come at you. Whatever your belief, your idea, your ambition somebody's going to question it. And unless you have first you won't be able to answer back. You won't be able to hold your ground. You don't believe me? Try taking a stand on just one leg. You need to see both sides.

Now, if you do, does this mean you get to change the world? All I can say, at this point, is that I think we can all agree that the world could use a little changing. I don't know if your parents have explained this to you about the world but we broke it? Um, we're sorry? It's a bit of a mess. It's a hard time to go out into it.

And it's a weird time in our country. And the thing about our country is oh, it's nice. I like it! But it's not long on contradiction or ambiguity. It's not long on these kind of things. It likes things to be simple. It likes things to be pigeonholed. Good or bad. Black or white. Blue or red.

And we're not that. We're more interesting than that. The way that we go into the world understanding is to have these contradictions in ourselves and to see them in other people and not judge them for it. To know that -- in a world where debate has kind of fallen away and given away to shouting and bullying -- the best thing is not just the idea of honest debate: The best thing is losing a debate. Because it means you've learned something and you've changed your position.

The only way, really, to understand your position and its worth is to understand the opposite. That doesn't mean the crazy guy on the radio who's spewing hate; it means the decent human truths of all the people who feel the need to listen to that guy. You are connected to those people. They're connected to him. You can't get away from it.


So here's the thing about changing the world. It turns out that's not even the question, because you don't have a choice. You are going to change the world because that is actually what the world is.

You do not pass through this life, it passes through you. You experience it, you interpret it, you act, and then it is different. That happens constantly. You are changing the world. You always have been.

And now it becomes real on a level that it hasn't been before.

And that's why I've been talking only about you and the tension within you. Because you are, not in a cliched sense but in a weirdly literal sense, the future. And after you walk up here and walk back down you are going to be the present. You will be the broken world and the act of changing it in a way that you haven't been before.

You will be so many things and the one thing that I wish I'd known, and want to say, is: don't just be yourself, be all of your selves. Don't just live, be that other thing connected to death. Be life. Live all of your life. Understand it, see it, appreciate it and have fun.

May 29, 2013 |

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